Transformation will not always cause healing,
but healing will always cause transformation.
It is important to become sensitive to your own thoughts and emotions.
Your thoughts and emotions determine the values you are or are not capable of embodying.
Example: If I, consciously or subconsciously, tell myself I am worthless, then I make myself incapable of embodying worth.
Because what you look at is what you’ll see. If you’re occupied with worthlessness, your mind is predisposed to find ways which support or back-up those feelings.
It’s like believing something…anything, then not being able to put it into words. You look around (either in the world around you or in your own mind) and see that belief in an actualized form (a person, situation, story-of-the-self) and after seeing it, you say to yourself, “Yep, that’s what I thought. I’m worthless. Point made.”
Thoughts can be very hungry. They are always looking for food to sustain them. Good thoughts and bad thoughts. It does not matter. They are looking for reflections of themselves to eat. Validation.
If you are embodying values which do not jive with your essence, then there is a discrepancy between inside life and outside life.
Example: You pursue things that to you possess worth (relationships, career, religion, spirituality, volunteer-work) yet there’s still this nagging suspicion you’re unworthy.
Something’s not being addressed. Something at your core needs your attention. There is distance between you as the Experiencer and Experience itself.
This distance allows space for judgement to live.
Judgement permisses violence.
Violence cuts off from connection.
Lack of connection leads to lack of sensitivity.
Lack of sensitivity leads to lack of empathy.
Empathy toward others requires sensitivity towards oneself.
Sensitivity towards oneself requires self-love.
To have connection with yourself means living in an awake state of mind.
To be awake one must not be asleep.
To be asleep means to miss out on one’s own life.
Not testing your own beliefs and values does not guarantee a pain-free life.
Yet if your values and beliefs are tested, there can begin a process of healing.
Where there is healing, there is transformation.